Love, the monster sent to wipe out comrades

By Oscar Ochieng Ochieng
23rd February 2020

Relationship!!!
This term relationship has been misused by many people especially among the youth. You mention the word relationship to a young person then what rings into his/her mind is "love", another misused word.
There are many types of relationships but for now I would like to draw your attention to the "major" type which has led to so many people more so the youth getting depressed and ending up giving up on their lives.
Sometimes I tend to think that our parents or guardians or maybe our elders are the people misleading us towards this relationship thing. Most of the time when you ask how our parents met then you will hear statements like " we started dating while in campus." This statement sounds very interesting and my fellow youths may want to know how it is to date while in campus and end up getting married and having a complete family but it doesn't work for most of us
Or is it our highschool teachers who misled especially we men when they "lied" to us that immediately you get to campus several beautiful ladies will come running after you? Well it's very difficult to understand how relationship in campus among the students has now become like a hobby where one student can end up dating a whole "village"
So many relationships in campus have led to many loss of lives of very bright minded young people. Look at the case of the late Ivy wangechi a medical student who was ruthlessly murdered by a man who claimed to be her boyfriend. https://www.cnyakundi.com/murder-of-ivy-wangechi-cyprian-nyakundi-statement/
There are so many other cases which has occurred just because of these relationships with no benefits among the campus students.
These types of relationships also lead to youth being tortured mentally when their private affairs leak and trend in the internet just because they "broke up"with their previous partners who may be having some of the videos showing their private affairs which they both enjoyed while were together.
The two are just but  examples of results of toxic relationships among the campus students. Most of them are caused by lack of trust, lack of commitment and mostly not being honest and faithful. Therefore before getting into a relationship you must be read to be committed,honest,faithful and trust each other.
Some of the signs that you are in a toxic relationship include

• Passive aggression.
• Jealousy and the blame game.
• Criticism and contempt.
• Arguing without communicating.
• Negative energy.
• Avoiding each other.
• You're not yourself.
• Feeling like there's no point.
• You only think about making him or her happy.
• You can't seem to do anything right. 
• The above signs will help you identify whether your relationship is headed towards a good direction or a bad ending'